It’s been a while since I’ve updated the blog and, to be honest, I didn’t really know where to start after taking a much-needed break. There are so many things I want to share with you guys but for now I’ll focus on getting this post done.
So let’s start where it all began (or I guess in my case, where I paused). A few months ago, quite a few things happened to me that really had to make me stop and think about EVERYTHING in my life. For the sake of staying on track, I won’t get into the details of what they were but they were all significant enough to start affecting me physically and it started affecting my health. Even if I was still eating just the same, I started to drastically lose weight, which got some of my family members, friends, and even a few observant followers concerned. It took 4 separate doctors on 4 different occasions to tell me the same thing before I really understood what they were saying. What was causing all these ‘illnesses’ was stress. Stress from all these changes in my life but also stress from self-imposed pressure that I could be doing more in all aspects of my life.
At first, I didn’t really take it seriously ‘cause I always just brushed it off and believed that it’s mind over matter but somehow, no matter how much I ignored it, my body was telling me something was wrong. Eventually, it gave out on a recent trip, which led me to the ER ending in a harsh reality check that I was burnt out and needed to slow down before my situation got worse.
I always just thought that stress was an excuse people gave for whatever reason they might have, until things started happening to my body that I had no control of. It wasn’t until I found myself curled up in the corner of a small emergency room that I was scared straight. The doctor stood there in the other corner of the room and just told it to me like it is: if I don’t listen to my body, then this situation is only going to get worse and eventually will be irreversible. So something’s got to change.
That’s when I knew I really needed to take some time for myself and just find the balance between work & life. It sounds so simple but somehow it felt like such a seismic shift in my daily routine that days would go by without me posting anything (which is weird). I sat down with most of my friends (a lot of bloggers too) and it was so reassuring to have such raw and real conversations about our lives and how, to some extent, we were all feeling the same way. We don’t all have the same problems (obviously), but they could relate in one way or another. This stress wasn’t even job-centric some of us had very different jobs. The causes were different but the effect was just the same.
People looking in from the outside can very well assume that everything is always so happy & ‘perfect’ from our posts but I wanted to write this as a reminder that most of what we all see online are everyone’s highlight reel and we get so caught up in the ‘filter’ of it all that it’s easy to forget that. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE MY JOB and I am SO GRATEFUL that I’m able to do this for a living but with all the perks that come with the job title, I, too, feel a sense of responsibility to be honest and share not just the good of it all. I get a lot of messages in my inbox/ DMs from people about this topic so I’m sharing my experience in hopes that maybe it can help you too.
I’m writing you this post in hopes of a few things:
1) You will learn from my mistakes and listen to your body when it’s trying to tell you something
2) You will remember that you should strive to live YOUR best life (not someone else’s)
3) And that we can share a more honest and open conversation about stress management and possibly share some simple ways we can avoid future burn- outs – I’d love to hear from you.
Since then, I have been taking more active steps in managing a healthier, work-life balance. I have been actively doing yoga & taking random group classes to keep my body happy and healthy. I have also been trying to eat healthier and I must say I have been feeling so much better! I didn’t even have to make any drastic changes but just doing a few things in the day that make me happy, I found, has made a huge impact on how I have been feeling.
I can go on and on about all the things I have done that I found has helped me through this but I feel like I’ve rambled on quite a bit. So if you’d like for me to share more of the things I do then let me know and I’ll do another post / video for you guys. But for now, here’s a quick list of a few things I’ve learned:
You can’t do EVERYTHING alone
It’s okay to take a break from time to time – actually, we need it
It’s okay to ask for help
I only have one body so I should really take care of it
STRESS is REAL & it’s scary!
Prevention is always better than a cure
I hope this post helps anyone out there that might need it.
If you guys would like to share your methods on how you relieve stress / manage a healthy work- life balance, I would LOVE to hear your thoughts! Let me know in the comment section below and maybe your comment could even help someone else out there.
To everyone waiting for all my pending posts, they are coming – I PROMISE! I am working on them all one by one. Stay tuned :*